Conflict with people is inevitable. It’s going to happen. We’re all just people. People who have stupid-get-in-the-way-emotions. It’d be great if we were all emotionally disconnected. That way we could all just logically say what we mean without letting emotions get in the way to resolve complicated issues.
Yea, that’s not going to work. Besides, emotions are good. Positive emotions can power us with drive, ambition, connection, and inspire others. The problem is when we sink into the negative.
We’ve all said something that we’ve regretted after the fact. We’ve said things that are mean, hurtful that we wished we hadn’t said in the first place. It’s not personal, it’s business… except that it is personal - and we all know it.
Conflict is hard. But it shouldn’t be. I think it has to do with the fact that we feel that it has to be negative because of all the negative emotions that typically come along with a heated debate. And it’s those negative emotions that get us all tied up.
You, ya you. You’re in control of your emotions. So, what if we we made it ok to separate some of that out? Here’s a few thoughts:
- Disagree, don’t disrespect.
- Arguing and being a jerk are exclusive concepts.
- Fight for something, not against someone.
So let’s take the high road and focus on ourselves instead of blaming someone else. Ask what you can do - or could have done better.